I have been a judgey bear this week. I find it comes into play with me after a few weeks of weight loss success. I might as well declare I have my PhD in knowing it all.
Let me tell you what happened.
Our media seems to send mixed messages regarding health and fitness. The goal always seems to be how fast can we become the smallest person we can be. Take up the less space. That in and of itself would be frustrating. Value and self worth equating to size. But what really gets me going is how in the same breath we encourage each other to eat our faces off.
This is my prime example:Nothing against Woman’s World. I actually like reading the mini mysteries and the short romances. And they normally have a few heart warming pieces. But can you see why I am frustrated. Every week, this magazine has the quick fix on how to lose a significant amount of weight right next to some indulgent decadent dessert. What the fudge.
Why do we always seem to be setting ourselves up for this self-loathing? OK, I am projecting a bit. I don’t speak for all women. But you have to admit, this is far from the only media that tempts us with calorie laden foods in the same breath of telling us we should lose weight and quickly.
Which gets me to my morally superior moment of the week. A women filled fitness group I am apart of on Facebook had a post where a member asked how she could lose 10 lbs quickly. Don’t give me a healthy way, she says. She will worry about that after she gets to her weight goal. Here question alone wasn’t the truly frustrating part. It was the answers. Cabbage soup. No carbs. No fat. A fast. The majority of the women had there lose weight quick schemes and were encouraging the behavior. Some acknowledged that she would probably gain the weight back. My few favorites joined me in sarcasm including illegal drug use or removing an organ.
But upon reflection, I felt mean. I don’t know where this woman is coming from. Haven’t I been this person multiple times in my life. I once only ate oatmeal, green beans and chicken for a summer. Part of the reason I currently want to lose weight is so I can go shopping at the mall and look attractive. Being a sanctimonious anonymous commenter is not winning me any points and odds are setting myself up to fail. Because, honestly, aren’t we all a few steps away from wanting to just lose the weight as fast as possible?
All I can do is focus on myself and be a supportive resource to those trying to get healthier. Raising each other up and all that jazz. In the world today it’s not easy to be a woman. We have to play so many roles in society and look hot too.
So, reader, know if you need a cheer leader. I am your person.
Previous Fitness Fridays:
Our weight loss journey starts with some friends.
Then we decided on the Lose It plan. How much we lost for the month of May. Trying to balance it all as a new mom. Being ok with going over calories some days.